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What Brothers Need

My biggest fear about living so  from home was that my siblings wouldn’t know me. That they would know about me but not who I am.  I wanted to be actively involved in their lives, not a spectator.  Especially with David.  I had read a lot about how a sister can impact her brothers and I wanted to spur David towards Christ.  I loved letting him know he needed to protect me and save me from bad guys.  I loved when he would put his arms around me and tell me I was his baby.  I loved when he would hold the door open for me. And I loved encouraging him to be a godly man for Christ.

In our Sunday School class here we have been talking about what it means to be a true woman of God.  One of the lessons hit me.  We talked about how we can encourage all young men in our lives toward godliness.  We should so reflect Christ that they are encouraged to be godly men.  Our meek and quiet spirit can spur them to be the biblical leaders the world needs.

I also just read a chapter in a book about that!  (Amazing, how God works!)  It was about demonstrating respect towards our brothers and also being interested in their interests.  The book talks about how girls always complain about the lack of godly young men but at the same time they are tearing down the manliness of their brothers.

All this hit me because I felt I couldn’t do that.  I live five hours from my brother. It never occurred to me that it could be done anyway, in the way I treat him when I call and skype.  Do I listen to him, even though I can’t understand a word he says over the phone?  I’ve made it a habit to encourage him every time I talk to him.  Usually this comes in the form of my telling him he’s my hero.  David loves super heroes- Spiderman, Superman, Batman.  He’s knows they save people and he runs around in his super hero costumes all the time. I want him to know that I admire his bravery- against imaginary villains, snakes, and Caroline-monsters.  (Okay, I might have to rethink that predicament.)

I’ve also realized that I need to be doing this with my sisters.  I need to encourage them to live as godly young ladies.  Also, I want to encourage them to see David as a young man and not an annoying little brother.

I’m learning to be more encouraging with everyone I know, especially my family.

 
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Posted by on November 6, 2013 in family

 

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What is Family?

When I was five, my birth Mom died of cancer.  When I was eight, my Dad married and I got a second Mother. I have two siblings by my birth Mom and three siblings by my second Mom.  Now, some people would try to tell me that it’s not natural to feel a real love for my Mom and siblings.  They tell me that there’s usually a great divide between so-called half-siblings and that it’s fine for me to not love my Mom.

And I’m here to tell them they’re wrong. I love my Mom just as much as I can and I’ve always felt that way. There has never been a time when I said to her or even felt in my heart the attitude of “Well, you’re not my real Mom.”  Because she is my real Mom. I believe that God is sovereign and it was in his will for my birth Mom to die and that he sovereignty placed another Mom in my life.  Not that I’ve completely forgotten my birth Mom. I’m grateful to her for choosing to have me, but I also know that right now she’s in the presence of the Savior and when I get to heaven, I’ll have two Moms to reunite with!  (Unless, of course, I die before Mom 🙂

As for siblings, I’ve never called them anything but my dear brother and sisters. I love them beyond belief!  There is no difference in my love for them and my love for my other two siblings. The divide in non-existent with me. Of course, there is the divide of ‘big’ kids and ‘little’ kids, but even that is disappearing as Becca becomes a ‘big’ kid!  I heartily disagree with anyone who calls them anything other than my siblings. In fact, in one of her learning stages, Becca said something about me being only half her sister and I looked her in the eye and said seriously, “Don’t ever say that again.”  I did a little explaining and she never has.

I thank God for everyone in my family and for his grace and sovereignty in putting us together!

 
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Posted by on January 11, 2013 in family

 

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Happy Hobbit Day!

Several years ago, I invented a holiday.  On September 22, I remembered that it was Frodo’s and Bilbo’s (from Lord of the Rings) birthday.  I then created Hobbit Day.  Or so I thought.  I later found out that the American Tolkien Society had already created it (in 1978!)  and Lord of the Rings fans from around the world celebrated it.  I was a little bummed that I didn’t really have the idea first but……

So, I know what you’re thinking…what a nerd!  I know, I know.  Hey, we all love Lord of the Rings here.  The little girls can’t wait until they are old enough to watch the trilogy.  Unfortunately for them, that won’t be for a while.  We usually watch the series at least once a year and it must be the extended version, none of that cheap theatrical stuff.  We also quote the movie often.  Probably the most-quoted movie line at my house is, “But it is not this day!”  We can’t get through two days without spouting this line for some reason.  I do have a few pet peeves about those movies though- like how they completely changed Aragorn’s outlook on being king, how they added some non-existent romance, and don’t even get me started on how they ruined Faramir!

I love the books and movies for several reasons.  The biggest reason is the conflict between good and evil.  I love how there aren’t really any in-between characters- you are either good or evil but you can’t be both.  I also love Sam.  I love his loyalty, his courage, and his cheerfulness.  He and Legolas are my favorite characters.

So, whether or not you think me a complete nerd or not, I wish you a very happy Hobbit Day and I leave you with my two favorite quotes from the said movies.

(Sam) I know. It’s all wrong. By rights we shouldn’t even be here. But we are. It’s like in the great stories, Mr. Frodo. The ones that really mattered. Full of darkness and danger, they were. And sometimes you didn’t want to know the end. Because how could the end be happy? How could the world go back to the way it was when so much bad had happened? But in the end, it’s only a passing thing, this shadow. Even darkness must pass. A new day will come. And when the sun shines it will shine out the clearer. Those were the stories that stayed with you. That meant something, even if you were too small to understand why. But I think, Mr. Frodo, I do understand. I know now. Folk in those stories had lots of chances of turning back, only they didn’t. They kept going. Because they were holding on to something. (Frodo)What are we holding onto Sam?(Sam) That there’s some good in this world and its  worth fighting for.

(Gandalf,  in reply to Frodo wishing that the ring had never come to him)  So do all who live to see such times, but it is not for them to decide. All we have to decide is what to do with the time given to us.

 
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Posted by on September 22, 2012 in about me, family, Lord of the Rings

 

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A Homebody

Ahhh…it’s sooo good to be home!  I had a great time on my trip. One day, we got to visit Charleston. We saw some lovely houses including one that is for sale- for sixteen million dollars! We also passed a cemetery and saw one gravestone- the person was born in 1630! By far, the coolest thing we saw were the fountains! In this one park in Charleston, kids are allowed to play in the fountains! The kids with us LOVED it. You really just wear your swimming suit and play in (not on) the fountains!

On my last day, I called my Mom to tell her that we were leaving in the morning and I would be home later the next night.  She could tell from my voice that something wasn’t quite right.  I knew that if I talked too much, I would start crying so it was only after some probing that she found out what was wrong.

“Well, I just really miss you all.”

“You’re homesick?”

“Uh-huh.”

“Well, we miss you too and can’t wait for you to get home. I love you, okay?”

“Okay.”

Oh, I wanted to be home sooo bad!  It was the longest I had ever been away from home without any of my family with me. I missed everyone more than I thought I could.

After I got home, I was talking with my Mom.

“You were really homesick, weren’t you?”

“Yes.”

She chuckled. “You’re such a homebody.”

 

I looked up the definition of that word.

home·bod·y/ˈhōmˌbädē/

Noun:
A person who likes to stay at home, esp. one who is perceived as unadventurous.

 

I guess I am one.  At least the first part of that definition.  I love to be at home.  As to the second part, maybe some would consider me unadventurous.  I just like to think that I prefer to go on adventures with my family, not by myself. They are my favorite people in the world.

So….I am a homebody. A proud one.

 
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Posted by on September 14, 2012 in about me, family, joy

 

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What Moms Think of That Daughters Don’t

My family has a private blog that I use to blog about what’s going on around here.  You know, to keep them all updated since none of our family lives near here.  My uncle started this blog and encouraged everyone to use it.  Mostly, it’s just me.  My uncle posts sometimes but usually I feel like I’ve overtaken this blog.  I know my family doesn’t mind because they like to read it.  So I started my own blog and since then, I have only posted one thing on the family blog.  My mom mentioned something about this to me. I responded by saying that I didn’t really think anyone read it except my one uncle.

She explained:  “You have a wonderful opportunity to be a witness to your family.  They have always thought that we forced you to live the way we do, the way that is obedient to Christ.  Through your writing, you can show them otherwise- even if it is just one uncle.”

She’s right.  If I can be a witness to just one person, it’s worth it!  It reminds me of the parable of the lost sheep and the lost coin.

Lesson: Moms have a little more wisdom than daughters.

 
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Posted by on September 4, 2012 in blogging, family, witness

 

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Bethany’s Birthday

Contemplating her next move…

Today is Bethany’s seventh birthday!  She has grown up so fast!  While my Mom was close to her due date with Bethany, my Dad had to travel to Chicago. Mike was graduating from boot camp and Dad went to see the ceremony  with two of my uncles.  That day of the graduation, Mom started having contractions.  She knew she needed to head to the hospital, so she started calling some friend to find someone to take her and someone to take care of us.  It just so happened that everyone we knew was at a bridal shower in a different town.  And our neighbors didn’t answer their phone, so that put us  all in a dilemma.  Finally, Mom decided she couldn’t wait any longer and was about to walk out the door with us to the hospital, when our neighbors called and said they could watch us.  So, Mom took us to their house and then drove herself to the hospital.  The doctors decided to deliver and she called my aunt, who in turn called one of my uncles who was in Chicago, who in turn told my Dad he may want to come home.  He started right away but didn’t get there in time to see the delivery.  The doctor noticed my Mom was by herself and asked if there was anyone she could call to be with her.  There wasn’t but she said the Lord gave her a great peace about the whole thing.  As for us, I must admit we weren’t worried in the slightest we were just excited about the baby!  Bethany was born a healthy, chubby baby and today she is turning seven!

We celebrated her birthday on Saturday because she wanted to do water balloons and it’s supposed to rain today.  So we surprised her and had m&m cupcakes and then water balloons.  The water balloons weren’t really fair though, because SHE got to use them and WE had to use rinky-dink squirt guns!  What she doesn’t know is that we are also going to celebrate her birthday again today with a Chutes and Ladders cake and a few more presents.  I’m also going to make cinnamon rolls for breakfast after I’m done here and after I run.

One of my favorite stories about Bethany:  We were camping and Becca said something about wishing stars.  And Bethany looked at her and said, “Becca, we don’t have those kind of stars around here. I wished for a pony and I never got it!”

 
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Posted by on September 3, 2012 in family, sisters

 

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The Miracle of Life

When Mom was pregnant with David, she haemorrhaged and we thought she had had a miscarriage.  As my Dad rushed her to the hospital, he hurriedly told me what happened and asked me not to tell my siblings.  There was a reason for this. It was 2 or 3 days before our big family reunion and one part of the family was coming in that evening.  He didn’t want the others to worry.  He wanted them to enjoy our cousins that live at a distance and we don’t get to see very often.  I cried buckets but somehow managed to hide them from my sisters. (Well, except for Caroline asking one time, “Are you crying?!”  What are you talking about, you goose?)  I had wanted this baby so bad!  I LOVE babies!  I was heartbroken at the thought of that little baby dead.  Our family arrived and I quietly told my aunt and uncle what had happened.  Their response: “Your mom is pregnant?!”  I guess they missed the memo.  When my Dad came home a while later, I was in another room.  All I heard was, “The baby’s okay!”  I think that is the only time in my life that I have literally fallen on my knees and thanked God!  I was so very, very thankful!!!  As it turned out, Mom had to stay on bed rest for the rest of the pregnancy and some months later a healthy, tall baby boy was born.  I praised the Lord for His goodness to me!

David is THE baby.  He has the funniest, cutest way of asking for things that he almost always gets it.  Come on, just look at those dimples.  Who could refuse them?!

On February 29, 2012, I sat David at the computer so he could play his ‘special school’ games.  A minute later, I walked over to find him slumped against the back of the chair and his arms were jerking.  His face was turning purple.  “Mom, come here!” Caroline casually walked over to see what was going on.  “Coming!’ called Mom, but it didn’t sound like she was moving real fast, so Caroline and I yelled together, “NOW!”  She ran in.  We originally thought he was choking because I had given him a piece of bread and it was sitting on the desk near him.  Mom told me to go get Dad who just “happened” to be home that week.  As I was coming with him, Mom yelled, “Call 911!”  Dad grabbed the phone while Mom gave David the Heimlich to get him to breathe.

Rebecca came in the room and after one glance at what was going on, she ran sobbing to her room.  I ran after her and hugged her as we cried together.  We prayed over and over again for God to protect David and help us.  I had to leave her to help Mom.  The ambulance was on its way and David was semi-conscious. It was at this moment that I gathered my wits and remembered that I had set MY bread on the desk when I found him in the chair.  He wasn’t choking.  He tried to walk but just stumbled around.  Just as the EMTs entered our house, he lost consciousness.  The thing that settled me the most was when they walked in the room.  They asked what his name was and then while listening to his heart one said, “Hi David!  We’re here to take care of you.”  They quickly took him in the ambulance with Mom and Dad followed in the van.  At that moment, I stopped crying.  I knew that I was in charge now and if I was an emotional wreck, Becca and Bethany would be too.  Caroline was the worst -she loves David very much.  I called our dearest friend to tell her but I had to leave a message.  I then called our pastor and his wife.  At the time, they lived right down the road from us and she came right over to talk to Caroline.  Then she sent it through our church’s prayer chain.  And some other friends sent it through the homeschool group prayer chain and their churches’ prayer chains.  And it seemed that within 15 minutes, everyone in the county knew about David.  There were so many wonderful and concerned calls from friends to tell us they were praying for us and if we needed anything, just to call.

Through many tests, we found out that David had a seizure.  For a while, I felt kind of guilty that I hadn’t remembered right away that the bread sitting there was mine.  I knew David would have bruises from the Heimlich Maneuver.  I felt like that until Mom told me that one of the doctors told her that that helped him to breathe again.

While he was in the hospital and after he was moved to one farther away, Caroline and I took care of the girls.  We slept in the living room together at night and one night, we spent the night at a good friend’s house.  They missed Mom a lot, especially Becca. She is such a Mommy’s Girl!  But there were lots of calls to Mom (even with the cell phone breaking in the middle of all this) and we kept ourselves busy to keep their minds from worrying. He spent 2 days in the hospital.

David has had many seizures since that day.  In fact, he had one just three days after he got out of the hospital.  This time he spent four days in the hospital and we were able to visit one evening.  It was so nice to see him and give him lots of kisses and hugs.  He hasn’t had another one that caused him to stay in the hospital. With each seizure, they kept increasing his medicine dose.  Finally, now, 6 months later, we have completely controlled all seizures and seizure activity.  Praise the Lord!  

It was quite an ordeal. In fact, even as I write this I am crying.  But God is good!  He’s always in control! I can see ways that we have grown closer together because of this and I praise the Lord for it!

When I look at David, I praise the Lord.  I praise Him that He gave David to us and that He protected him through the seizures. This serves to remind me every day of the preciousness of life.  It reminds me of the miracle of life.

 
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Posted by on August 27, 2012 in about me, brothers, family

 

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